"I don't understand the incessant need to constantly go on and on about hating things all the time"
Whatever you think of Lady Gaga, she has a great point here.
Why do we spend so much of our time hating on stuff?
Why do we spend so much time criticizing and critiquing?
Would it be okay if we just accepted things without feeling like we constantly need to judge them in some way?
I know this can be such a tricky thing because so much of our society, especially when it comes to women, really instills this idea of judgment and comparison in us. It can be a challenge to overcome because
1. Everyone does it
2. It seems totally "normal"
3. It's constantly propels, and sometimes encouraged, with everything we see, hear, consume on a regular basis.
So how can we get away from this as a normalized behavior?
It is not necessary for our success.
In fact, it’s probably hindering you.
We have to acknowledge that it’s unnecessary programming we are choosing to engage. But you don’t have to.
You can choose to remove it. Here’s how:
First - take inventory of when your criticism comes up. Is it around a certain type of person? Is it in a particular setting? If you’re not sure, I recommend taking a written inventory. Buy a little notebook, or create a note on your phone. As you find yourself judging, make a little note of who, what, when, where you were at during your judgy spell.
Second - Play the 3-1 Game.
I’m sure y’all have heard of this when you were kids and we are bringing it back!
For every negative, judgmental thought you have, you get to think of 3 things you like about it.
Third - Adopt a motto that keeps you focused on your new non-judging path. My favorite is “You do you. I’ll do me.” I like it because it also reminds me that I don’t need to be worrying about people being judgmental towards me either.
Really, you can do these in any order and you can begin doing them right this very second. I recommend you do! You’ll be surprised how much your energy will change once you stop hatin’ and start letting it just be.
Let it be.
Let it be.
Drop the judgment and just - let it be!